Since the 1980s, I have been outspoken that we are only screwing ourselves by creating a culture of "correction" and shaming. Shaming each other is every bit as harmful as the rejection and condemnation society levels at gays. If we are going to claim higher moral authority, then we damn well had better be living and breathing it. That means no judging or shaming people because they live their lives differently from you, period.
I, too, came from the time when men never questioned other men about a hookup and getting off. "A gentleman never tells" was the law of the land. If you were at a rest area, public restroom, park, or particular establishments, it was strictly about draining balls. If you weren't into someone for whatever reason, you simply did not have contact with them and that was it. One certainly didn't launch into tirades about their home life, or berate them for not meeting a particular standard of physique or aesthetics.
Men of all ages who have bought-in to this appalling culture of shaming and political correctness need to chill the f* out. Lose the bitchy high school style council drama queen mentalities. Rediscover the pleasure of just being a man and getting off with another man.
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