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Originally Posted by KewlDewd66
Many of us agree that there is both a practical and substantial difference between men who choose to live openly as gay men and those who go for the down-on-the-low bro jobs. We still need to take time and develop the sense of acceptance of both life styles.
A DL, bro-job dude is who he is. He may or may not have valid reasons for keeping it down on the low. Yet, it is for all of us to recognize that it is HIS life ultimately, and hence, he should be calling the shots.
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I agree 100%!!
There are many in the gay community that feel you HAVE to be "out" and open - and some that will even try and force people out. Some of them may be doing it with good intentions - but it is not their place to do or to lecture you on how you choose to live.
As far as I am concerned who I have sex with and what I do is between me and the person I am doing it with. I don't need to march in a parade or wear a pin or do anything else to publicly state my interests - because unless we are having sex it has nothing to do with you.
Unfortunately there are many gays who can not accept that a person can be gay or bi but does not need the entire world to know. They may have a reason (safety, society, family, work) or it may just be a personal choice - but it is THEIR choice to make.