Yesterday our local LGBT Center posted a link to a follow-up interview with Noah Michelson, the author of this Huffington Post piece. I had missed his original article I'm A Gay Man Who Loves Sex (And Here's Why That's Suddenly A Problem)*|*Noah Michelson which I thought a lot of folks here would find interesting.

Here's an excerpt. I'll reserve comment for now and let you all discuss amongst yourselves:

Be sure to read the rest then come back and let us know what you think.

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Before moving into any neighborhood, you gather the basic facts, and walk the few blocks, too. So, you realize that there are too many sex shops for you feel comfortable raising your children around? Well, you look somewhere else. It will take a very long time for the established residents to change their ways for the benefits of the newcomers. We may be talking a generation or two? So, why move-in the first place?

Nope, you cannot explain your 6-7-8 year old what the Boy Butter is. Not because you or anyone else is ashamed of it but mostly because the kid is probably too young to understand the basic premises of human sexuality. What feels and looks like perfectly simple and natural to the adults may be an overwhelming experience to a 6 year old, first grader guy.



Freedom of expression allows uninformed individuals to share their well, uninformed views. This is how freedom generally functions. Not very good. Only no one around knows of any better way of doing it.

The news that some men objectify other men, and change their partners, probably even more often their underwear (2xIst or Fruit of the Loom) is as new as the Fall of the Western Roman Empire in 476. It is news alright. Juxtaposing this well known fact with the notion that some gay men choose to actively pursue romantic relationships, seek monogamous relationships or want to start their own families only shows that the author of the article happens to be as clueless as someone who is comparing the proverbial apples with the equally proverbial oranges.

Unlike their str8 counterparts, gay men have always had, (and still do) the option of hitting the neighboring cruising park/backroom/spa/rest station/tearoom, etc., whipping out whatever equipment they have between their legs, and the chances are that a willing mate out there will help them get their rocks off.

Remember the saying that if there was a park where women were giving free BJs to the guys who'd be walking around, they'd have to build a highway exit to that place?

So, like it or not, gay men objectify their sexual partners. We have anonymous sex with other guys who we do not know, and who, we probably, even do not want to know. And, we do it for the simplest of all the reasons in the world: because we can.

Our evolutionary wiring allows males to see any sexual intercourse as an extremely low cost-high pleasure experience in evolutionary terms. Say, a few minutes later, a dude has shot his load, and is good to go. After a relatively short recovery phase, he is good to shoot again, and get going. The evolutionary cost of a sexual intercourse for the female is very high: nine months of pregnancy, raising the offspring, etc.

Hence, the gay men have a choice or doing it fast and furious, and on the cheap, if you will, (in evolutionary sense), or doing it after the candlelight dinners, courtship, exchange of gifts, etc.. Our str8 counterparts face a very different set of choices. It's either your right (or left) hand, or possibly expensive and embarrassing sex4money, or the courtship business with all its unknowns.

Now, no one has ever said that the world was ruled by the laws of universal fairness. This is where the str8 majority looks, feels and IS actually disenfranchised, and moaning about it won't really help.

The gay dudes will continue to hook up for the casual, NSA, perfectly anonymous sex, no matter what the editor of any newspaper anywhere in the world writes.

And the str8 GFs will want dinners, gifts, romantic evenings, serious promises, etc., before they put out!

KD

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