I met a Lao man in Bangkok almost a year ago and we have been together there a few times since. He says I am his number 1 boyfriend and now wants me to visit him at his home in Vientiane. However, when I checked the government web sites I found warnings about how it is illegal for foreigners to have sex with Lao nationals! I was planning to stay with the man at a nice hotel in Vientiane but now I am having second thoughts. Afterall, it would be very obvious to locals if a westerner was sharing a room with a Lao.

Does anyone know how stringent the Lao laws are about this?

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I took an Isaan boy to Laos for a week. Stayed in nice hotels in Luang Prabang and Vientiane without any problems. In fact the trip was organised through Purple Dragon who organise gay travel all over Asia. We were met by a (gay) Lao guide for our stay in Lunang Prabang.

However, whether being with a Loa man would be different I can't comment.

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To play safe, ask ur friend to meet in Nong Khai or spend the nights there. Nong Khai is less than 30 min fr Vientiane by bus.

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There is no need whatsoever to worry about this law.

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Some years ago, a Japanese friend had serious problems when he was found spending the night with a Lao girl, to whom he was engaged... but not married. The situation with Lao guys is unlikely to be any different and you should exercise caution. It very much depends on where you stay.

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I beg to disagree. In this part of the world, men and women are distinct/different, and the sexes are treated very differently. Men are seen as free and fun-loving while women need to be protected.

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