[Grumpybear]

Here's a long, hot story about my wife finding out I like dick. If you don't want to read the story, skip down to the last paragraph for the questions for your repsonse:

MY STORY:
My first marriage was never happy. For thirteen years, we lived together fighting over her lack of a sex drive. I wanted to remain faithful, but I was miserable. I would still be stuck there if I had not meet and fell in love with a like minded girl.

Before the second engagement, she and I had a long talk about sex. We agreed it was separate from love, and enjoyable with multiple partners. I admitted I had bisexual feelings, and she confessed the same. Right after the wedding, we invited a couple of special guests back to our hotel room for a private party of champagne, pussy and dick. Nothing much out of the ordinary happened, if you consider watching your new bride bent over a table with her wedding gown pulled up while she got fucked by one of the ushers. Of course, I didn't care as I was having a cozy 69 with one of the bridesmaids on the bed.

Over the next several years, we had numerous experiences. I'd arrive home, and find her in bed munching on some pussy or getting pounded into the bed by some stud. We had a code for whether I could join in or give them privacy. This is not to imply she was a slut, there were just a few regular lovers, male and female. I also had my fair share of bed mates, always female except when she was there too. This was also before AIDS, so protection was much easier.

I remember once when she had her leg in a cast from an accident. We went to a party where one of her old boyfriends was present. After talking about civil matters, the talk revolved (with my help) around to sex. He admitted he was between girlfriends. I joked with my wife, we should invite the old boy over for a trip up her memory lane. We ended up going back to his place. I was kind enough to hold her cast leg up so she could enjoy the fucking. She immediately slipped off to sleep. I could tell he was still horny, and asked if he wanted a blow job. He was agreeable, and I sucked her juices off his dick until he rewarded me with my own thick wad. She slept through that part of it.

It wasn't unusual for me to dive into her sloppy muff as soon as her lover creamed in her. I loved licking up the combination of pussy juice and cum dripping. Most guys were also agreeable to letting me suck their dick clean. She seemed fascinated watching me suck her lovers. However, usually once they got real hard again; she wanted to shove it back into her pussy so dick sucking was limited to get him hard for her. I usually finished her off with a fuck, sometimes while cleaning off his dick again, but never got a nice wad after she had drained him.

However, one night everything changed. One of her regular lovers came over so horny you could smell his lust. She, however, was not in the mood. She went to bed, leaving us alone in the living room. Having sucked his dick clean several times after fucking my wife, I was at ease with him. I always had a good collection of porn, and he asked if we could watch some. I pulled out an old classic and popped it into the VCR. Before long, we were booth sitting on the couch jerking off. I was surprised when he leaned over and kissed me full on the lips. He told me that sometimes he got a bigger thrill from my blowing him than her pussy. In a very short time, we were on the floor, naked in a 69. I had him all the way down my throat, trying to give him a ripple job by pulse swallowing. He was getting a little loud and asking me to fuck him. About the time I had two fingers shoved up his ass, I noticed a movement on the tv screen. I realized my wife was watching us from the hallway. Determined to give her a good show, I bobbed up and down on his dick until he shoot his full wad. I could have easily swallowed it, but I let it dribble out for show. While I licked up the drops, he went full speed on my dick. When I blew, he started coughing and withdrew my spurting cock taking a face full. Having finished cleaning his cock, I proceeded to lick up my own juices from his face. Each time I scooped up a load, I shoved my tongue in his mouth to share. He was more than happy to get it. I noticed my wife was gone when I looked up. She was asleep, and unresponsive, when I got into bed later.

The next morning, she was withdrawn and quite. I asked what was wrong, but just got the "Nothing" response. For the next couple of days, she was standoffish, sulky. Finally, after three days, she asked what was going on in the living room a couple of nights ago. I said just having a good time with (name withheld). She asked why did you do that. I said what do you mean, you know I'm bisexual. She said that wasn't bi, that was gay. After some discussion it was agreed no more free lancing, just mutual group sex. A couple of nights later, when we were in a fourway, I made a move to suck her pussy after her lover shoot off in her. She said she had to go to the bathroom. Without even thinking, I reached for his dick to clean it off, which I had done before. He drew back, and said my wife had told him no more fucking her if she caught his dick in my mouth. I went back to the girl I was with figuring he was just not interested and making an excuse. When my wife came back, it was obvious she had showered. She said she was tired, and wanted everybody to go home.

The next day, I asked her what was going on now. She said it wasn't right what I did with other guys. I said, does that mean you're going to stop licking pussy. She said that was different. Just no more homo action! I guess it was okay to suck dick to get it hard for her cunt, but not for enjoyment. I agreed to the new arrangement figuring she would change her mind again.

After another couple of months, she still had not gotten over it. I had behaved, and not strayed from our new agreement even when we shared our bed with others. It was obvious things were going downhill since she realized I liked dick as much as pussy. I finally came home one day to find she had moved out. While we did get together for sex from time to time, it was over. Once the ink was dry on the divorce papers, I went out and sucked every willing dick I could find and fucked and got fucked by two or three guys a night. I didn't care, I just wanted men: one, two or three at a time. I ended up fucking one guy while his brother roughly fucked my mouth and some other guy was shoving his dick up my ass. I was finally the cum pig I was meant to be. Of course, after a short time, I settled down a little. However, I still was getting more dick than pussy, and a lot of it was her ex-lovers left high and dry by her new morality.

THE QUESTION:
So if you were a married bi-sex guy, did you tell your wife or hide it? If you didn't tell her, how did she handle it when she found out, if ever?

[pike]

Grumpybear wrote:

Nothing much out of the ordinary happened, if you consider watching your new bride bent over a table with her wedding gown pulled up while she got fucked by one of the ushers.

LOL!

It wasn't unusual for me to dive into her sloppy muff as soon as her lover creamed in her. I loved licking up the combination of pussy juice and cum dripping. Most guys were also agreeable to letting me suck their dick clean.

If there are any couples in the SE Michigan area who are into this kind of scene please contact me. I'm very interested in talking to you.

[montresor]

Before I was married, my fiancee knew I liked sex with men, and not only agreed to regular threesomes with my former college roomate, she actually devised the way we'd break in this straight guy into the world of bisexuality. Our first threesome with him (of many) ended with him jacking over both our faces while we licked his spurting tool and shared his load.

After marriage, however, all that stopped -- she apparently didn't think that threesomes, etc., belonged in the context of matrimony. Bisexuality, however, was not just a passing fad for me, it was part of who I was. I sought out man-to-man sex whenever possible, and we ended up divorcing.

My current GF has been with me for 20 years. My bisexual urges were on the table early; she had asked if there was anything interesting about me that most people didn't know. I took a chance and told her I liked sex with men, and sharing my female partner with another guy. She was thrilled! In the ensuing years we've enjoyed swinging (she's totally straight, so it was always with men), she had a number of affairs, some that lasted for years, I've had long-running sexual friendships with men, and have even had a lengthy FWB relationship with another woman who is extremely bi and gets off like crazy watching me with other men.

[mdbiluv]

Grump,

Suffice it to say; when my beautiful lady found out about my bisexuality; it was initially confusing and devastating for a variety of reasons, but the most prominent of those reasons being the infidelity factor. Therefore it was a multifaceted dynamic we faced; addressing the infidelity was the first issue we needed to tackle as a couple, before we could even move on to the bisexuality. Through collective personal decisions made by both of us individually; we knew we were in love and fully committed to developing a lifelong relationship together, and we knew to do so meant total and full disclosure on both of our parts...

...However since the gist of your question wasn't around infedility; and more around how she handled the bisexulity dynamic, suffice it to say through many conversations and total and full disclosure we dealt with the infedility issues....and moved on to the bisexuality.....

Obviously the concept of bisexuality is a confusing issue for men and women alike to deal with. There's some simple factors that play a pivotal role in how this plays out in a relationship between a male and female. It's a mutual respect based dichotomy; combined with a series of personal decisions made by both persons, or it's merely a lie one will answer to in the future. It should never really resort to whether or not you like cock or pussy equally; or more or less, determining the security of the relationship itself. It's about love...not swallowing cum making you gay vs. sucking nd licking making you bisexual. My precious lady fully understands that bisexuality is no more; or no less, purely a sexual expression. It has never and will never impact or define who we are as a couple; our connection and commitment to each other, or our love for each other. We share cocks together; she enjoys them as I watch, or vice versa. We choose to swallow cum or take it on the face or penetrate or be pentrated on individul -experience basis....and we never judge each other for their choice of expression. We have taken the time to define what each other's boundaries are; we agreed to accept the few rules the other has expressed, and we never deviate from them or judge the other. We both make decisions on what we want to experience at that given moment in time; we never judge each other, and there's never reprisal for what happens. Do you see the theme---we never judge each other inside the boundaries we discussed and agreed to....we don't judge each other - we respect each other. I love her beyond life itself and there isn't a doubt in her mind; because I respect her on every level consistently and sincerely, and reciprocate the same exact courtesies and respect and understanding she provides to me...
To us; that's what love is, and it takes two people committed to the same goal to achieve it and maintain it...

That's a long-winded prelude to answering the question... YES; a man must tell his lady about his bisexuality, if he even remotely cares about and/or respects her. Evenutally it will be addressed; the harder path to travel is to not tell her, and let her find out the wrong way. That was my mistake; my regret, and my life lesson. I was only blessed enough to have a woman that truly loved me and worked every bit as hard as I did; or more, to heal the wounds and build a lifetime love based on the the truth ......

....To think that it would be anything less than totally confusing for a woman trying to digest the man she love's bisexuality; would be a grievous error in judgment on any man's part, and quite probably the fatal flaw in making it last. My lady did not understand it at all at first. It started with her accepting it first; then progressing to understanding it, then further to bless it and participate with me. If it wasn't for her having the human compassion and intellect; to discern the difference between love and sexual expression, it would not and could not have progressed to the next level. She was/is as committed to me as I am to her; and we talked openly and honestly about every aspect of the ramifications, before going to the next step. At times they were very difficult discussions; I felt embarrassed & humiliated & ashamed, yet her love washed me clean of those negtive emotions. I can only imgine how strange it was for her !! Our sexual experiences together have only deepened the level of love and respect we share; primarily because they are simply that, sexual experiences. The fact she likes a hard cock in her pussy and one in her mouth at the same time; is no different than the fact I may have the same desire for another man or woman, and it doesn't infringe on the personal connection, compassion, and love we share. Sexual expression and our love is entirely separated. What isn't separated is us; we share our experiences together aand always communicate honestly, no exceptions. It works for us. It strengthens us. However it doesn't define us as people...it's merely a portion of who we are as people (as it should be).

Best wishes...and swallow cum if you want to swallow cum