How Can I tell.....?

jaxiom03 · #1 2nd August 2005, 05:13 PM

Here is the situation. There is a guy at work who is married w/children that is giving me an "odd" vibe. I'm a black man who isn't obviously gay, but I'm sure the hints are there. He is a white man, who besides the married thing, conservative. He just seems to friendly to me and almost everytime we run into each other, there is some sort of touching from him. Its either the pat on the back, the shoulder or the 2 pump action on the shoulder blade. I never touch him, (cause I would probably grab his ass).
Like I said, I'm getting a really odd vibe. How can I maybe push things a little, not enough for him to run to HR, but kinda test the waters to see if he is looking for something...maybe just a little curious?

killer · #2 3rd August 2005, 03:00 AM

"There's a guy at work..." That's the important line. Don't start anything unless you want bad things to happen. It's just not good politics to screw a co-worker. Plenty of other fish in the sea.

loadeater · #3 6th August 2005, 10:49 AM

remember what momma said--"never shit where you eat." enough said.

BlkJack94710 · #4 7th August 2005, 08:31 AM

A buddy of mine was in the same situation. Here's what happened...My buddy went out to lunch one day with a straight guy (my friend is gay) from his office. Over lunch the gay questions came up and my friend was happy to reply. During the coversation my friend started getting "that ol' feeling that maybe this was going somewhere. Back at the office the straight guy asked my friend if he had to go to the mens room. My buddy thought, ok here goes. Steps up to the urinal and my buddy looks over to check out his hang and the straight guy freaks! Tells everyone in the office of the encounter and my friend ends up in the HR office. He was written up and a note placed in his file. Luckily he never touched or reached for his dick as he would have lost his job. So, if your looking for a new job and plan to be leaving soon, and only after you have left would I make a move on this guy.

Corey · #5 9th August 2005, 10:31 AM

I totally agree with the others. There are some guys who touch - just like some gay guys who don't kiss. Everyone is a bit different and getting touched by a (straight) man might seem somewhat different, etc.