I have deceided that I want to try and bottom, lately I have been getting hard just thinking about a guy fucking my virgin ass. But I have a few questions for you guys that bottom,

Should I try some butt plugs or other anal toys to train my ass a little before I try a real cock?

I am better to find a smaller guy for my first bottom experience or am I better just to find a good top?

Do I really need to douch or is just a good scrubing enough to insure a clean enough ass?

Is there a position that is better for a first timer, I have read that on top is best so that I can control the pace a little better?

and any other information you guys might have will be of great help?

Thanks in advance for any help.

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i would recommend using a dildo or something just to see what it feels like, but realize there is a big difference between a dildo and a real cock. For me, the size was never that big of a problem, just make sure you are lubbed up. I also prefer to start on top, so I can control how deep he goes in the beginning. I have been fucking a guy with a 9+ inch cock for a few years, and it is good. At first, he would enter me from behind, but that hurt. It got a lot better when I started on top.

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I have been fucking bottoms for years. It's gross when after a terrific session, you pull your cock out and find faeces stains on the condom. So empty the bowels and douch the hole well. For a first-timer, it is preferable to have an experienced top, who knows how to start slow and work up the rhythm and excitement gradually. In my younger days, I used to straight away get into either the doggy or missionary position and jab the bottoms, often causing them much pain. Now I know they have more control if they start being on top, and lead the pace. When they get into a comfortable rhythm, I take over, roll into missionary position and start thrusting. If they hurt, I slow down and stimulate their nipples or cock, or roll up into a sitting position, hug the guy tight and kiss him deep while having my cock still up his ass, thrusting slightly. When he's ready again for the last leg, I put him down on his back and do the thrusting. By now, most bottoms would have no resistance, and pain becomes pleasure as both go to a climax.

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Yes well put by Bago. Clean out the hole with an enema or douche to give more room for that cock and you feel it better. I as a bottom like to get my b/f hard and mount his cock as he lays on his back so I can control the rhythm. Slowly take that mushroom head into the sphinter and slowly press down . Once he is totally inside and comfortable I know I am open and ready so we can roll over and now enjoy all asoects of real fucking. Like the doggystyle and missionary with my legs up on his shoulders so we can kiss. Then get the bodies in motion and in rhythm till we cum together. Once you get it down you will love it forever.

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Thanks for all the answers for my questions. Looks like I will have to find some sort of enema kit to get really clean before I try my first. Is there a lube that you guys like better for anal? I have used K-Y for jerking but it seems to dry our pretty fast. Thanks again for all the sugestions

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KY is horrible. It dries up fast and I think the whole idea is to make you use more and more of the stuff. I like to use something a bit more controversial -- massage oil. I like nothing better than to smear his cleaned hole with fragrant oil and play with it with my fingers, making him moan with pleasure, before fucking him. I have read that oil can dissolve the rubber condom, but every time I have noticed the condom clearly intact even after a terrific and prolonged fuck session.

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remembering my 1st time, didn't like it, stung, and afterwards uncomfortable for a time. Was told ya gotta do it a few times.... did, never liked it but it did get a little easier, but I abstained from it for years. Then someone talked me into letting them, he did it quite differently (played around, poked a little, worked the lube in... slow and gentile...) ,,,and, ok, a little uncomfortable start but no pain, and then hummmmm.. I could get into this! Now I don't hesitate as long as they are not very thick. (Length just seems to make it easier and a nicer stroke sensation)

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My biggest problem was in my head as much as my butt. I had a difficult time mentally accepting that I was willing to get fucked. I had been able to convince myself that what we had done jerking and sucking was just horny guys - it was not gay it was just being horny.

Getting fucked was different - there is no denying that was gay. It was not easy to align my idea that I was straight but horny with the fact I let my buddy fuck me.

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I wonder after all these years whether ChiBurbsGuy ever did follow through. Reading the thread reminded me of my first time. I had some experience inserting things (even vegetables) so I was familiar with anal stimulation and liked it. So I wanted to get fucked. But letting a man actually insert his dick into my ass was so different. A bit of anxiety, overwhelming desire to please the guy (who I was really into anyway). My desire overtook some discomfort, and it introduced me to a source of a lot of pleasure since..

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There are so many old threads where I really wish I could get an update - some of them the person put so much time / thought / planning into it - and we never know if he got the courage up to act or just went back into the closet.



It is strange to think about those early days - such a different world. I really wish I could go back and talk to the guy who was my first - partially to apologize for all the BS which was all my issues with trying to accept that I was willing to get fucked.

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I cannot believe its been so long since I posted this. I also can't believe that I never posted a follow up to the original post. I have bottomed a number of times but not as much as I would like and still do want to more. The first few times were a bit awkward and not enjoyable to me at all. I think that this was because I was with guys that weren't experienced enough and I was nervous about someone fucking me. I got some toys soon after the first couple of tried and got use to having things in my ass and it really made it easier for me with guys. I also learned very early that getting clean is a must, met up with a guy that I thought just wanted me to suck his cock but ended up he wanted to fuck as well soon he was going at it and then I got the smell of shit and he pulled out and ran to the bathroom I was so embarrassed but I think he was more. I tried to hook up with him other times with promise that I would spotless clean but never happened. So now I make sure that I have douched and even use a dildo to make sure that I am very clean before I go out or have someone over. Overall I have had a great time being a bottom and really love the feel of a nice cock. I hope that I can continue doing it for a long time.

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Thanks for the update - glad to know you are still here and got to try bottoming.

I am no expert - but I do think it takes time to get past the mental barriers we have due to upbringing and society. I remember being more nervous about the fact that sucking dick in my mind I could "justify" as just being horny young men. However getting fucked - there was no denying it - that was gay sex. It was not easy making that step.


Very embarrassing - but not uncommon. As others have said "shit happens" and when doing anal it is going to occur at some point. Glad you learned from it - when we were first trying anal I had never heard of douching.

It is great you gave it a try and are enjoying it!

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I saw here an advice to use a dildo for the first time amd I totally agree. It would be better to use butt plugs before it anyway so your hole needs to become wider to use dildo in a correct way. It is important to listen to your body. You should use lube! So these thinhs will help you to have a great anal sex then. I know its been a long time since this question but I am sure that there a lot of newcomers who need to see it

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It really is wonderful how with the Internet guys today can get so much advice and knowledge about anal sex before they first do it.

We had no idea what we were doing - I am just thankful my buddy knew enough to know about lube - I have heard a few stories from guys who did not even have that much information!

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yeah back in the beginning we never knew to 'clean out b4' (or would have a clue how would you?!) Douche ? well the term douchebag would be used in a non complimentary ways, but that was all most of us knew about the thing. lol Oh and the discovery of real lube (as opposed to spit., hand cream or similar...) was a good step.

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