Just went to my first gloryhole on the 31st and with trembling hands sucked my first cock! Absolutely LOVED IT! Only problem was that the recipient pulled out without cumming in my mouth which kinda made me wonder if I wasn't any good (He did get hard as a rock!) But, later, I was on the receiving end of the most incredible blow job that I have ever received! Deep throat and swallowed my load. The problem with this day????? I was incredibly embarrassed after getting my cock sucked. Is that normal????? I am bound and determined to return to the scene so that I can live my dream of sucking cock and swallowing their cum but the embarrassed stage bugs me. Thanks for any help!

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The embarrassment is the result of years of social training that real men don't suck cock. Baloney! As soon as you realize there is nothing wrong with it, the quicker you will get over those feelings of remorse. As far as the guy not rewarding you with his load, forget about it. There are men who like their dick sucked over and over again. In order to prolong the ABS experience, they will hold off on climaxing until just before they head out, especially mature guys that can only nut once in a couple of hours. May also be he is a married dude looking for a little man on man fun, but has to save the sauce in case the wife wants some when he gets home and she would be suspicious if he couldn't deliver.

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Thanks! I wasn't embarrassed about sucking a cock that is for sure! As soon as it slipped into my mouth I felt like I was doing what I was born to do! I just wasn't sure about the feelings after being on the receiving end. Hoping to have a followup visit to the ABS this next week so I can see if I can get a load pumped down my throat!

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BiCurious - you were lucky Grumpy was here - he covered it all.

There are lots of guys that do not want to cum "yet" and will go from hole to hole getting a bit of a lot of guys. You will find some that cum so fast you are disappointed because you were just getting started! Believe me if you did a bad job you would know.

And again he is right on the embarrassment. We are brought up the male / male sex is wrong and even though we want it, it takes time to get past that socialization saying it is wrong. A buddy of mine and I as kids had sex for years and every time after the cum it would be like "so are you ready for the math test tomorrow?" because we were to embarrassed to talk about it.

But that to will eventually pass...

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Thank jonn! From the line of answers that I am getting about not cumming, my guess is that it just wasn't what he wanted to do. The place that I was at was not busy at all (2 - 4 booths in use) and very few customers overall. I'm slowly realizing about how to deal with the embarrassment also but will not know how well I am dealing with it until I revisit the store. The hardest part of course is finding the time since #1 I am married #2 she does not know about this. So hopefully Wednesday afternoon I'll be able to update everyone on my 2nd visit! Thanks for your thoughts on this!!!

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Thanks for all the help! I really wish that I could go on a weekend night to see how different the crowd is but life dictates that I go during the week. I went back again this morning and although the place was dead, within 5 minutes of going into the arcade, I was rewarded with someone sitting in the stall next to me. He ended up giving me a blowjob and I countered the embarrassment part by kneeling down and giving him a blowjob. I was rewarded with a nice load shot in my mouth and now I'm addicted. Sucked a 2nd one within 10 minutes but he chose to cum in his hand so wasn't surprised too much. No embarrassment on my part at all even when I walked past the last one who was standing just outside (recognized the shoes) and nodded to him. So hopefully that is a major step for me as I continue to press the conventional bounds and experience more and more of this fabulous lifestyle!

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Okay, but now the difficult part of the discussion. You've experienced the joys of man to man sex and want to continue. You mentioned that you are a married man, and your wife does not know about this. From those comments, I assume you feel she would not approve. While I am all for guys having fun, I question your commitment to the vows of your marriage. I had the same problem at one point. Thankfully, my wife was very open-minded and as we already had an open style marriage did not disapprove with the stipulation of proper precautions. Perhaps the "embarrassment" you previously felt was related to misgivings about your marriage vows. You need to do some deep soul searching.

Do you feel gay encounters are a violation of your marriage vows? Some people do, and others just consider it as a convenient outlet for NSA sex.

How will you handle the situation if your "gay" side gets exposed? Unfortunately, not everyone you run into in the ABS will be a stranger. You might unknowingly actually suck off or get sucked off by a friend. There is also the chance that some slighted queen might get revenge by outing you. In my case, I don't advertise my sexual orientation, but neither do I deny it.

And lastly, since you are in a committed relationship; you owe it to your partner to stay informed on HIV and AIDS, to use proper precautions when engaging in any risky sexual activities, and get a periodic HIV test.

I'm not trying to discourage you. I am just being bluntly honest. I think outmoded sexual repression should be discarded by society. There are definite differences between sex and love. WE can have both in our life and not necessarily with the same person.

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Thanks Grumpy! You have given me something to think about. I don't feel like I'm "cheating" by giving oral sex to someone but I can definitely see your point. I've been thinking about how to approach her on the subject but just haven't had the opportunity to do it as of yet. I do know that it is only fair that she know but at the same time, I'm not sure of how she will react.

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just suck, suck and keep sucking

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Not fully aware of your home situation, but perhaps I can offer a suggestion. Do you think she would be agreeable to a three-way with you and another guy both servicing her? After the other guy fucks her and pulls out, tell her how much you love her pussy juice and that you want to lick every drop of her inner juices off this cock that just fucked her. Then give the guy a tremendous blow job. After he blasts a load down your throat, tell her how you understand why women like giving guys blow jobs. Talk about the feel of that skin sliding in and out across your tongue, and the tightness of it sinking into your throat. Keep reminding her that you started this to drink up her juices, but it was better than you imagined. Let her know she is first and foremost in your heart, but you could learn to like sucking duck as much as munching her pussy. Throw in there, "Especially when it's slimy with your delicious love juice!"
Alternatively you could, if it is safe medically and other means of birth control are used, have him shoot his load into her pussy and go down on her sloppy cunt. Lick all those juices up while telling her how remarkable her fresh fucked pussy is. Then switch to him and say something like you wonder if slimy dick is as good as slimy pussy. Gauge your actions by her reactions.
I am assuming that you would let the guy in on your intentions before he comes over to fuck your wife. Would not help if you chow down on his dick and he is not agreeable. However, I have found most guys sexually free enough to join in a three-way don't mind getting a man to blow them. If he is agreeable beforehand, it could even be his suggestion as he pulls out of your wife for you to "get your ass over here and lick her juices off my dick". If your wife reacts positively, he could rub your ass and make a comment like "maybe next time, I'll fuck your man pussy and have your wife watch."
If she doesn't like to give blow jobs, change your tactics a little. After the other guy cums, let him ask if she will lick your dick clean. When she declines, he can turn to you and say "guess it's up to you to do it, buddy." If she changes her mind and wants to lick his dick, give her a kiss while she is sliding up and down with his dick between both of your lips. The whole idea is to get her to accept what you want to do as a natural extension of love for her. Don't make the mistake of getting so into it that you neglect her. Squeeze her hand in affection while blowing him, or alternate between his dick and her pussy. Make her a part of your exploration of man to man sex.

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