I was just wondering if anyone here has any social contact with old sex buddies - not like old boy friends - but friends from your younger days you fooled around with to one degree or another.

I have recently become Facebook friends with a couple guys I messed around with when we were young. And there is one guy that I see socially maybe once a year or so...

All three of these guys are now married with children - the one I have seen in person we have actually talked about it a bit - but the other two I don't think there is any sexual thoughts with them contracting me - but yet we all know it happened....

It is a bit awkward - partially because even if not having sex it would be nice to be able to talk about it with them - and I don't think I would ever bring it up - but I am sure they must be thinking about it the same as I am.

Has anyone else ever had this situation? How did you handle it?

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You and your buddies are connecting on a social level. This is what it is: social. How is your life? SUP? Pure curiosity and probably little behind that.

If you are reconnecting in person, the chances are that we are not talking about the superficial Facebook curiosity. Feel free to talk about the past. Why shouldn't you? After all, they used to be your FBs. They know that. You know that. Why should this be a taboo now?

Do not jump on the conclusion that they want to go back to being your FBs again. But there is no reason for you to be uncomfortable mentioning it in private context.

KD

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Oh I know they are not looking to have sex - hell have not even seen each other in 30 years!

But it is interesting the opportunity's the Internet offers us - these are guys that were a part of my life at one time and I have wondered what happened to them.

The current generation will always be able to get in touch via e-mail if they want to - but back when I went to college you saw everyone from high school over the first Christmas break but after that you just lost touch -

Now if you want to you can always keep in contact - a very different world.

As for talking about the sex we used to have - it was never something we talked about really - until the next time we wanted to get off. The joys of growing up in the days when everyone was in the closet!

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True. Everyone was in the closet, and yet we managed to have pretty intense sex lives. Now, that so many people are out, you would be hoping that the going got easy?

Surprisingly, for many dudes this is just not the case...

KD

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I wish I had been braver back then - between the social stigma keeping everyone in the closet and the news saying "if you have gay sex you will get AIDS and die" I spent way to much of my prime sex years alone with my right hand....

Now things are more open and although still a major concern at least HIV is more understood now - but I am no longer 20 years old

:-(

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