[bjseeker69]

When your bi and can only hook up when away from home (arh married one here) what are the best 'signs' that you can leave that say 'am looking and want COCK!' I have to keep straight around co-workers etc and Its like impossible to know if other guys are acting straight wishing they could get bjs. So does anybody have any tested non verbal clues or signs that only gay or other active bi dudes would keep up on?

[sukmeoff2]

My situation is similar, to get my kicks I frequent bookstores with gloryholes. I usually get all the anonymous cock I can handle. The only folks who see me are other regulars doing the same thing. Should anyone get to familar I vary my hours of visitaion.

[Totem]

Are you at your favorite cruisy park/rest area/adult book store?

Eye contact.

Look that dude straight in the eye. If he looks away, he's not interested. If he looks right back at you, that's a starting point.

Now, are you looking at him and he's looking at you? Reach down real quickly and brush your hand against your crotch. That's an open-ended signal. Were you grabbing your dick? Or were you making a quick adjustment?

If you did the dick thing and he's still looking ... maybe you could reach down and give it a little extra squeeze.

Here are some other things I've noticed men doing at public places.

1) A guy was sitting there, doing the crossword puzzle. Just minding his own business, right? Except he was sucking on the end of his pencil and running the tip of his tongue over the eraser. He was looking for man-meat.
I walked up to him and said "I sure wish I was getting the same attention as that pencil." The next thing you know, we're hooked up.

2) A variation on the above theme is a guy who gives his fingers or his thumb a quick blow-job while making eye contact.

3) On a really beautiful day, I had a guy walk up to me and say "It's a great day to do something indoors."
THAT was a nice invitation.

There are others. Guys??

[Keith]

I've often thought maybe CFS could create something that might help identify Cruisers to each other. Maybe a t-shirt with a discreet slogan or a bumper sticker or something. We have something online right now for sale that guys can wear, though it rarely is purchased. Maybe it isn't discreet enough? Or maybe this is just is a bad idea for our specific purposes? I don't know the answer, obviously. But I do know some persons who like some sexual practices have succeeded in using code so that others could spot them in a crowd.

[CapitalUncut]

We used to have red and yellow sweater days at college, and then there are the ubiquitous hankies. I think the CFS tshirts are a bit too bold for many guys, especially those who live in places where extreme discretion is still a necessity. Something less obvious is needed that those who don't get it wouldn't be any the wiser. Maybe something along the lines of this?

[Keith]

Actually just the simple letters CFS might do the trick. Those 'in the know' would likely recognize those letters for their meaning to other cruisers.

[justwantsomedik]

Why not just write CFS on the back of your left hands with a pen. Something that can be seen by those that know to look for the letters. And it can easily be wiped off if needed too.

[bjseeker69]

Hi there, I really like the replies but would love to see the cruisemaster(s) give this link more broad coverage as I have not found it easily drilling down thru the links. Only the e-mail New Linkback mail i got brought me back to read them all. I would really like to hear how to leave other discreet 'signs' when your on the road, in hotels, and don't want resort to scribbling you room # in lobby/bar restrooms. What about leaving something accidently looking like a room bath hand towel on floor outside the room door?
Thx for the feedback to date.
Bjseeker69.

[willenil]

The motel room with the curtains open just a little so if a man or sometimes woman wants to look in and see that i am watching porn on TV or a naked men mag. laying where it can be seen works for me.Or sometimes i let the curtains stay open while reading a first hand mag

[KewlDewd66]

The problem with any and all signs starting with the yellow pullover is that the matter soon becomes known to everyone. This actually exposes you, and more often than not, scares the otherwise willing guys, since they do not want to be seen with someone who is 'so obvious'.

Frankly, even if there were a code known exclusively to gay men only, I would rather take a rain check on that one, too. The fact that I am gay and that this other dude happens to be gay, too does NOT mean that either he or I are intersted in each other. I have met very few men so for, who will go with just anyone because this guy is willing...

The way to do it is to train your observation capability. Training does make perfect, and you'll soon be able to spot the guys who are checking you out. You will learn how to mimic them and check them out, if you are interested, too.

The winner dude is always the one who reads the situation first, and who has the guts to break the ice.

I attend a number of conventions and professional meetings. In a crowd of several hundred people, I'll easily spot the guys who are on the prowl. If interested, I'll approach them, start a bit of a small talk and watch them. Soon, they'll either block me or go with me.

IMHE, an offer to come up to my room, and share a bottle of champagne or wine I just got as a compliment from the organizers has hardly ever failed to end up with my cock up his ass.

KD

[Grumpybear]

Working in an adult bookstore (ABS) all these years, I have seen the subtle and the over the top ploys to get the guy in the back booth area for some action.

Use to have one guy would chase anything that came into the store under the age of 40. His method was simple but crude. If the intended target was looking at videos on the shelf for purchase, he would walk over and kneel down beside him to look on the bottom shelf. This put his face at crotch height. If the customer moved to another section, he would wait a moment and then walk over and do the same thing. If the customer went into the booth area, it was a clear sign of acceptance. If the customer left, he was right on his heels into the parking lot, rubbing his cock all the way. Unfortunately, it got to the point that he was running more guys out of the shop than it was worth, and I had to ban him because he could not change.

The worst experience I ever had was one of the regulars was cruising a new guy in the ABS. The regular kept catching the guy's attention by coughing and then nodding his head to point to the booth area as a "cum-hither". He wasn't paying attention to me as the clerk trying to warn him off. The target he had selected was the Chairman of the local Town Board here to inspect the ABS to determine if it was a public nuisance. The Chairman left without commenting, I can only hope he was unaware of his personal stalker. However, if the regular had been successful in getting him in back for some fun, I would never have to worry about being closed again.

My advice is be subtle, but not so persistent as to be a nuisance. If you drop a sign or two and the guy does not pick up, it may be he's not interested. Move on to another person.

[KewlDewd66]

I agree with GB.

If a guy you are after shows no interest, do not waste your and his time. Move on.

Besides, being a desperate dude is hardly a turn on for anyone. This actually diminishes your chances with virtually everybody around.

I am not advocating 'playing hard to get' or anything. Be reasonable. Give it a try, show some guts, and accept whatever your target dude decided to do.

Everything else is trolling... In my books, that is...

[Grumpybear]

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There are over 60 hankie color codes listed and their meaning when worn in the left or right rear pocket. If you know of a code not shown, let them know and they will add it to the list. If you can't find the proper hankie, they sell many of them on the site at a reasonable price.

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[kellboi]

Yes the obivous tells in the ABS are the hankies in the back pockets or the tight jeans showing off the bulge but most you bi guys want to be more discreet. I find walking up to a man and taking a gay mag down to page over next to him a starter. Make small conversation softly like where did you find that mag on the shelf . Just a small starter of converstion will show him youre interested. Make eye contact and smile like the way a girl flirts. If he keeps talking dont be afraid to scratch yourself or touch his arm. It doesnt take alot of time to develop your gaydar now guys

[Your_GloryHole_Lover]

Kellboi is right! Don't be afraid to try some different things, especially in the ABS setting. All of the guys in there are horny and most of them know what goes on there, too! Most of the straight (?) guys and bi guys at an ABS or theater just want a hot blowjob and they're not very particular about how they get it. (That's why gloryholes are so popular!) And, if you're a real cock-lover, like me, you're not too particular about whose cock you suck either! (That's why I simply LOVE kneeling at the gloryholes!) Flirting at the magazine rack really works!