[rc620]

Greetings,

I wasn't sure in which group to post this, but here goes......

I'm a 40 year old MWM, that has been very bi-curious for many years. Interestingly, I am not physically attracted to men (I'll turn my head for a women, but not a man), but I do have a desire to engage in mutual oral sex with a man. The thought of kissing, hugging or having intercourse with a man is a serious turn-off for me, but the thought of oral sex is quite the opposite. I guess it would be safe to say that I'm attracted to one thing, a mans penis.

For those of you that have been down this road, what was your first step in fulfilling your desire? For me, a glory hole encounter would be ideal, because all I would be exposed to is what I'm attracted to. Problem is, I'm not the type to go to XXX bookstores and the like; plus, I'm not sure what's on the other side, and I'm very afraid of STD's.

Would an erotic massage be a good first foray into this world? If so, how do you find someone that is trustworthy, honest, discrete and disease free? Is an erotic massage something that could turn into a mutual sexual encounter, give the right circumstances? I have a high interest in was is referred to as a "TWINK".

What is the safest way to take a first step?

Any advice would be most apprecated......

Thanks........

[suckdicker]

Check out the massage, escort sections. You just let them know what you want and you'll get it. I can remember sucking my first cock...damn was I nervous until that beauty was near my mouth; then I couldn't wait. And God was it delicious. BiWM here and always willing to suck a nice dick...average is the best but you have to promise to cum in my mouth...69ing is perfect. Cheers, Monty in San Francisco

[elbert_12]

i recommend going into a bookstore but only hooking up with another married guy and being very careful with your choice. i also recommend using this site and *********** to find another married guy to meet up then go to a motel or someplace safe. my first was in a frat house and sucked one of my pledge brother while he was "sleeping"

[GringoBi]

I would agree with the massage, escort idea - I got started with a massage guy and it was great.
I had thought about m2m sex for many years and finally got up the balls to do something about it instead of wondering.
Went into a massage place booked a guy and had a ball.

[tri_bi]

rc ~ welcome to the club. I, too, am forty, but not married (was once, a long time ago) and am always on the prowl for someone to fill my mouth. I started out at the local arcade (in those days there wasn't much internet action) and was fortunate to find some good action there. I've never done the escort thing, but have always been lucky enough with the local hot spots. Not sure if you know or not, but CFS also has people giving feedback on the crusing spots in whatever area you live in and the info there has been pretty good - at least it has been in the Albuquerque area.
One other thing that I think bears noting: take your time and be safe. You taking a step that will lead to others, and there is no wrong way to do it, as long as you're being good to yourself.

You may also want to check out the sexuality dot org website for some good general info about health, attitudes, etc. and of course, if you're ever in the Albuqueruque area...LOL

drop a line if you want to:
tri_bi@hotmail.com

ps: if and when it happens, oooh boy, it's eveything you think it is

[deepman]

I've had my share of pussy over the years and still love it. From the time I was young, I was always attracted to the male body. When I was a young teen, a buddy and I would fool around with each other, but nothing more than touching and maybe a handjob. That attraction stayed with me over the years and I finally got up the nerve to take it to the next level. I began by going to some gay movies, in the days when there were actual theatres that showed them. I spent most of the time observing what was going on, but not getting involved myself. I had a real eye opener when I went into the men's room and saw one guy sucking on another guy's cock. That really sent me over the edge.

I finally got up the nerve to go to a gay bath, and that's when I knew cock was for me. Over the years I learned to love the taste of cock and ass, and now look forward to every opportunity to get as much as I can.

P.S. I still love pussy.

[nova-elder]

since I'm married I simply can't get any W2M sex (unless I pay). So since I love sex I find that M2M sex is literally the next best thing I take what I can get. Plus men really super want sex and that makes it more enjoyable. But truth be known if I could get some pussy I probably would be less M2M obsessed. But I would never close the door on my bisexuality.

[dale19355]

The most important thing to keep in mind is that this is literally a life changing event for most men, especially those who are married and just getting the idea that there might be something else out there besides coupling with ones spouse. So take it slow, and get as comfortable as you can with each step. While the gloryhole route might seem the easiest, there is something to be said for meeting someone for coffee first in public. That helps elevate the whole activity from a dark, back-alley encounter to one that is in the light. You'll remember the first cock you ever suck, but it makes the memory even nicer when you can also picture the man's face.

Best wishes.

I would say I have the same tastes as you, and in my mid twenties, I just decided to go for the glory hole and try it. First time I ran out because I was so nervous. But, a few weeks later I went back and had a great time. Been going ever since. The nice thing about adult bookstore glory holes is you can always leave... its' no big deal.

As for STD's, I always use a condom. Always.

Beware though, once you start sucking cock, you will become addicted!