If I am really enjoying the guy I am with I am likely concentrating on what I am doing, but sometimes wishing it was more. More as in a more involved relationship rather than a hookup or FB type thing., assuming the individual would be possible under different circumstances (If I am playing with someone significantly younger, 'more' would just be more frequent &/or additional sexual activities not currently being employed. lol)

But I do sometimes close my eyes and combine characteristics in my mental theater" this cock, that guys chest, that other guys legs, butt... eyes... tongue action...

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We need to play!!

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That is me exactly. My main focus is on the sex - but yet I do sometimes think about it being "more" than just getting off. I guess it is because of changes in gay porn. When I first say gay porn it was just "Hi my name is Bob. Want to fuck?" and now they make it a lot more "emotional" where the guys are making out and the like. I don't think I am looking to "date" but it would be nice to have it be more than a hook up. And I sometimes fantasize about that.

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Bi married guys are the best hook ups. They understand discretion and the necessity of doing the deed and being done with it. There is no emotional attachment. You suck, you fuck, you might kiss. Then you shake hands and go on your way.

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VERY true - they are discrete and usually very safe - they don't want to risk their wife and family but they need the release of sex they get with a man. And sometimes they feel like sex with a man isn't "cheating" since there is no romantic connection.

The problem is finding a guy who is comfortable and does not feel guilty about it and will keep hooking up regularly.

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You have just described my dilemma.

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I wish I could get them to understand - I am just as (if not more) on the DL than they are -

If I see them on the street I am not going to say anything - I won't embarrass them in front of their wife or children or boss -

I probably won't even acknowledge them other than a brief nod of the head.

Their marriage and secret is safe with me - I am not looking to date - just find a regular buddy to have fun with!

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I had a guy who I was hooking up with at a cruising spot following me in a Target. He was with his wife/girlfriend, and I was with my wife. If he had walked up and said hello, it would have burned me for sure because my wife would ask me how I knew him. If you are in public and you see someone, do not go up to them and talk to them unless you know the coast is clear!!! Better to meet up later and talk about the encounter. Set ground rules, etc. Mine are simple: Do not approach me if you see me anywhere else but where we usually meet up!

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