i have been hooking up with the same guy for almost 4 years now. We met online...his ad says he had a 9.5 x 6 inch cock. His cock is nice and, but not sure it is that big. He fucks me once or twice a month, and he gives it pretty hard. Yesterday he fucked my for 10-15 minutes (with a condom), and I felt him cum, even with the rubber on. My question is, is getting fuck a lot better when the guy doesn't have a condom on? I ask this because it does feel good when he is inside me, I just don't that much sensation.

Recently I went out and bought a nice big dildo (9.5"...molded from some porn stars cock) with a suction cup base. And fucking the dildo had more sensation that the real cock with the condom. We have talked about trying bareback, but I am little nervous about taking that step. I would love to feel him cum in my ass (he usually pulls out and takes off the condom and cums in my mouth)

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The answer to your question really depends on a very personal feeling, attitude or simple belief.

I have met a number of bttm dudes who would never go raw with their buddies for all the obvious reasons. They also swore that the sex was awesome, very good, good or whatever, depending on how they clicked together with their tops.

A relatively small number of the bttm dudes asked me to go raw, or indicated that that was the only way for them to enjoy it. They have reportedly tried with the condom and it really did not work for them to their fullest satisfaction.

You (the OP) have indicated that the top may have overestimated his size and that you felt better with the promised size dildo. Should the size be an issue here, you may want to go on searching for a bigger top without risking the seroconversion. If that still does not work for you, you can then decide to take the risk.

I am NOT a risk taker and would never consider going raw. The others will certainly have a different opinion. It is your health and your life. You are calling the shots.

KD

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The only time I fucked raw was when I was in a monogamous relationship. But when we decided to go polygamous, we used a condom. My bottom at that time didn't feel any difference with or without. Since then it has always been with condom for safety reasons. Whether or not my bottom enjoys the sex depends on our relationship and the feeling between us at that moment. Having a condom on doesn't stop one from having a terrific anal session, or best of all anal with condom then shooting into his mouth raw.

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Usually it's the top that complains about condoms. But I hear a few reasons that bottoms sometimes decline using a condom. One is latex allergy, but that can be handled with the nitrile-type. Another is that if a condom is too tight it can compress the head of the penis so it's more torpedo-shaped. For a bottom that likes a lot of "rectal massaging" that might not seem as satisfying, and it might be why the dildo actually feels more pleasurable. I've noticed that myself. But it could also be that the dildo is just bigger....

I have not yet found a reason, as top or bottom, which convinced me to bareback (I'm not in a monogamous relationship).

Hope you make a good, safe decision for yourself

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I would not recommend barebacking in any relationship not strictly monogamous. Even then you are putting your life in the hands of the honesty of your partner.

However, there may be a safe alternative. Are you buying generic off the shelf condoms? Check with your local ABS or on-line adult supplier for alternatives. Maybe a ribbed condom for extra stimulation, or a non-lubed to allow more friction, or a super sensitive style, or one of the many other varieties available. I checked our online wholesale site and there were over 78 different choices available.

If you feel awkward asking him to experiment, use your dildo to find what feels best for you.

Lastly, I must question if maybe the "magic" has gone out of this casual relationship. You been seeing him for 4 years, and can judge the size of his erection. Don't you handle it? Does he shyly keep it hid from you? You also mention he fucks you once or twice a month. What is he doing (or who is he doing) the rest of the month? An important consideration if you are considering barebacking. Maybe you need a fresh top.

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While the four prior responses seemed to focus (with some exceptions) on the concern for you potentially taking your buddy’s big fat cock without a condom (aka barebacking), I don’t think that your primary question was really addressed. However, you did phrase the question differently in the thread’s title (“difference…?”) and then within the body of your query (“… a lot better…?), so you’re actually asking two related but different things. So bear with me while I take on each question.

Would a bottom notice a difference taking a cock with or without a condom?
The definitive answer is: Of course.
The fundamental and most basic element of skin-on-skin contact is the transmission and increased generation of body heat. So when one is fucked with a bare cock, then the simple act of fucking, which is skin rubbing against skin (aka friction), in turn generates even more heat at the point of contact. And don’t forget that your ass hole and his cock are packed with highly sensitive and responsive nerve endings. So even with all the technological advances made in condom manufacturing in the last 30 years, a condom-clad cock still cannot compare with a bare cock.

Is getting fucked a lot better when the guy doesn't have a condom on?
If the issue boils down to what sensations you feel while getting fucked (see above regarding body heat), then again, the definitive answer is: Of course, skin-on-skin wins.

Now, before the Commissars of Anti-Bareback Sex start swinging their sabers while barking loud and long, please do not mistake my answers above for promoting bareback sex. I am simply addressing your questions. And you are already well aware that anything you do with your body is your own business, and you must decide for yourself how to proceed in regards to barebacking.

And as for your statement that “the dildo had more sensation that the real cock with the condom.” This may be due in large part to the fact that when playing with yourself (with or without toys), you are in control, and you know best how to consistently hit your hot spots, such as the best way to wring an orgasm out of your cock, or the best angle to always bang your prostate head-on. So while a dildo cannot really compare with the experience of taking a hot and throbbing, rigid slab of man cock, when the real thing isn’t available I am all for hauling out my 8- and 12-inch latex fuck toys for a round of solo fun, to literally slam-fuck the cum right out of me.

Admittedly, good sex for a pro-bottom does entail a number of variables, such as a good and hard cock coming at you, a really good lube (and plenty of it), and ideally some potentially explosive man-on-man sexual chemistry. And if you get lucky with all three, then you won’t even notice that he’s rolled on TWO condoms to ensure that his Prince Albert won’t rip through the first love glove. (If you haven’t yet been fucked with a PA-adorned cock, I highly recommend it. That little something extra makes for a very hot and interesting fuck.)

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many years ago., in my circle of friends, they wore condoms to keep the sh** off the dick. Although I personally felt no appreciable difference if he had a condom on or not., except when he came it was a big difference raw, and more enjoyed if the fuck was to continue.... BUT I did like the turnaround condom coming off and finishing in my mouth. Or the occasional cum loaded condom contents being slurped up from where he wanted.... (chest/abbs/dribbling on the dick to hopefully eventually get a 2ed shot...)

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For me as a bottom, it's simple.

1) Condom is uncomfortable, while bare is comfortable.

This makes sense because skin-on-skin was perfected over many years of evolution, while a condom, even when well-lubed, still drags "unnaturally" on my flesh.

2) Condom blocks the load, while bare sprays the load into my guts where it belongs.

Given a reasonably safe option - a "Two guys on PrEP & recently tested" situation - I prefer bare & will be more excited by the sex, which in turn makes it better for the top.

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