Whats wrong w/ABS guy?

jaxiom03 · #1 2nd August 2005, 04:33 PM

I touched on this some time ago, but still perplexed. There is this FINE latin man who has a gf? wife? (We work near each other).
Anyway, I've done him in joining boths to many times to count. Last time, I fucked him a little, we tongued for about 15 mins. I even rimmed him. Yet, he won't even make eye contact w/me outside of the both. We have even left at the same time and not even a nod. I want to leave my number on his car because I would love to get together outside of the abs cause getting w/him in there takes a lot of timing. The reason why I'm a little timid about the number is because I have seen guys touch his dick while he is waiting for a booth and he gets mad and hits their hand. He may blow up, never go there again, realize its me and go off on me...who knows. I get real confused, cause inside the booths, he is wild and up for anything, but outside he is very very stand offish. (sp)....any thoughts???

GASlick · #2 3rd August 2005, 03:53 AM

If you have enjoyed your activities with him and want things to continue, leave things as they are.

He is only comfortable with the anonymous quickie.

harrytopp · #3 11th August 2005, 04:10 AM

Jax...

You say he has a wife/girlfriend. Think about it. He doesn't want to fuck up that part of his life. If he acknowledges you outside that tiny booth, he brings what's going on in the booth into the real world.

A lot of guys go to a bath or ABS for anonymous fun. They don't want to deal with anything else. To him, you're not a person, you're a playmate.

Maybe when you're in a booth, just ask him if he would take your phone number so he can call you for a hook up. Do NOT, repeat, NOT, ask him for his number. He'll think you're trying to get closer to him.

You need to understand when he's there, his penis leads his life. After he blows his load, his brain takes over and all the guilt and remorse come flooding in.

Good Luck. Play Safe!

Bayshore33611 · #4 11th August 2005, 05:50 AM

And then there is the silly idea that some guys like anonymous sex because it's ... anonymous. .

Saying that you met a guy in an ABS booth and had a great time, but don't understand why he doesn't want to get together elsewhere (or whatever),.. is like saying I met a guy who is really into leather, but he gets uncomfortable when I ask him to cross-dress.

Different scene. Don't push it.

This (to me) is very much like the guys that I've met at ABS's who hook up with me, are really into me, we have an awesome time, they say 'you're hot', blah-blah-blah, and we pass each other and smile but never hook up again. They're putting notches in their belt ... that's their scene. The 'conquest' part of the encounter is a big part of the turn-on (I'm kinda' like that, too).

jaxiom03 · #5 11th August 2005, 03:59 PM

Thanks for all the feedback. You would think after sucking someones dick on a regular basis for so long, you would at least deserve a, "hey how's it going man?"
Straight men can be such brutes :-)

Specific200 · #6 16th September 2005, 01:16 AM

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Originally posted by jaxiom03
Thanks for all the feedback. You would think after sucking someones dick on a regular basis for so long, you would at least deserve a, "hey how's it going man?"
Straight men can be such brutes :-)

That's where you are not understanding your situation. If he wanted to say hi, he would have said hi. If he wanted to get together, he would have initiated it. You're just wanting something so badly that you can't understand what is his reality. Maybe his wife is so religious he can't get laid--who knows. Maybe he's closeted and wants to keep it that way. In any event, it's obvious that he does not wish contact with you. To try and contact him is pretty brutish, don't you think?

mascguybost · #7 16th September 2005, 01:10 PM

The cultural norms of an ABS scene, is like Bayshore says, "anonymous", hence, no social interaction is expected after the fucking, no matter how many times you hook up there.

If you do extend your phone number, which you are entitled to do of course, you're risking "turning him off". Part of the thrill is the anomynity of the situation and once names and numbers start flying around, it's a real buzz kill ;-)

It's understandable to get a little "crush" after a hot anonymous session with a guy, but you're better off just keeping it as it is if you want more of it.

Most guys just want to run for the hills after they cum in places like that, myself included. Once I come I realize I'm standing in a dark, cum infested booth with a stranger I just fucked. Hehe, it's sounds hot now actually, but that's because I haven't came yet today ;-)

Specific200 · #8 17th September 2005, 12:31 AM

Right on the nose. Right. . .on. . .the nose.

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Originally posted by mascguybost
The cultural norms of an ABS scene, is like Bayshore says, "anonymous", hence, no social interaction is expected after the fucking, no matter how many times you hook up there.

Most guys just want to run for the hills after they cum in places like that, myself included. Once I come I realize I'm standing in a dark, cum infested booth with a stranger I just fucked. Hehe, it's sounds hot now actually, but that's because I haven't came yet today ;-)

nnjbigguy · #9 17th September 2005, 04:41 AM

I definetely was THAT guy. now im more open and willing to talk to the guy who let me suck his cock or just sucked mine. The best part of it back then was the anonymity and the quest. I would blow my load in a guys mouth and basically run out of the door. Id thank him but not a single word more. offer your number but dont push it. your place with him is on your knees and his is with his cock in your mouth. to him THATS all. i had a guy fuck the hell out of me,take off his condom and by the time his pants were on, i was out of the door. NOW is a different story though...

GayWhiteTrash · #10 17th September 2005, 06:44 AM

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Most guys just want to run for the hills after they cum in places like that, myself included.

Same here. I'm not a closet case or have a girlfriend or a wife. I go to the ABS for one reason, when I get the job done I'm ready to go. No chatting, no phone numbers, nothing. I may say "thanks" sometimes but it's rare, I don't think it's needed under the circumstances.

Bttmboy · #11 20th September 2005, 11:49 AM

As a ABS sucker I love the thrill of sucking cock anonymously its part of the excitment of nonstop cock sucking. I wouldnt get offended if you offered me your number. Doesnt mean I'd call ya. If hes just looking to get off because we guys after all do give good head I'd think he'd just say no thanks and leave it at that. My experiance is guys looking for a blow only want that at the moment. IMHO

kellboi · #12 1st August 2010, 09:25 AM

It is hard for some of us gays to understand this since we want emotional envolement as well but with all the straights and biguys out there we have to understand they dont want to be seen as cocksuckers or faggots so they remain quiet. Learn to just enjoy them even though I know how hard it can be at times.

sukmeoff2 · #13 9th August 2010, 10:47 PM

For years I roamed the halls of ABS's waiting for the right mouth, then after I found it, I'd bail. Nowadays I'm that "mouth" that's waiting for the right cock to swallow. Afterwords I don't mind a "thanks man" or a number slipped thru the hole. I gotten several over the years but I've never called one yet. AS mentioned above, When I'm in the ABS/bathhouse/ gay porn theater, I'm in a totally different place in my sexuality. Inside, I'm a nasty cocksucking whore, Outside, I love pussy and tits and all things female. The only part of you I want to know is your dick.
.....As for that Latin dude; well there's an even bigger stigma attached to his cultural background and that's known as "Machismo". I have several close friendships with latin folk and those are the opinions I've heard stated. So I can only deduce that his culture is even far less accepting of homosexuality then others. Just an opinion.

Goodcocksucker · #14 25th August 2010, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by sukmeoff2

For years I roamed the halls of ABS's waiting for the right mouth, then after I found it, I'd bail. Nowadays I'm that "mouth" that's waiting for the right cock to swallow. Afterwords I don't mind a "thanks man" or a number slipped thru the hole. I gotten several over the years but I've never called one yet. AS mentioned above, When I'm in the ABS/bathhouse/ gay porn theater, I'm in a totally different place in my sexuality. Inside, I'm a nasty cocksucking whore, Outside, I love pussy and tits and all things female. The only part of you I want to know is your dick.
.....As for that Latin dude; well there's an even bigger stigma attached to his cultural background and that's known as "Machismo". I have several close friendships with latin folk and those are the opinions I've heard stated. So I can only deduce that his culture is even far less accepting of homosexuality then others. Just an opinion.

How about when you've been playing in the booths, having a great time knowing that 'absolutely no one knows you here' and you step out of your fantasy playground (booth) and you look (run) smack dab into someone that you know (that is probably there for the same reason) that would be the very last person in the world that you would want to know that you go to ABS's for the booth action!!??

Goodcocksucker · #15 25th August 2010, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by sukmeoff2

The only part of you I want to know is your dick.

Thats me and I'm sure many, many of us guys. Of course it's much better when that cock that you want to suck belongs to some drop dead gorgeous young twink with that great bod and not some old troll.