i had friends who held an over the hill party when i turned 21! and i'm the generation that grew up thinking that one should never trust anyone over 30. so aging has been a concern long before i hit my 50s.

typically i have been most attreacted to men around my age and always have been. but i find that i get more excited responses from some young guys than guys my age.

i've dated two guys half my age or more. in neither case was i a sugar daddy. with the first guy i was never his physical ideal and after three good years we split amicably and he started dating the big dick big belly top he always fantasized about. with the second guy i ended up moving 1000s of miles away. nonetheless i remain on good terms with both and treasure their friendships.

when i was young and living in nyc in pre-hiv days i would sometimes fool around with an old guy thinking someday you will be old too. thus far i do ok. maybe its the good karma i earned then. lol

staying fit does help. i also find that younger guys prefer me to be my age rather than pretending to be a 56 yr old 25 year old.

getting old is not for sissies. one can just stay home and sulk like some of my friends or go out an look for companionship.

i never pressure young guys because i recall that when i was their age i would never have looked at a man my age. when i find some one i indicate my interest and then move on. if they respond great. if not well i'm already looking for the next man i meet.

recently i met an RAF helicopter pilot in a sauna in manchester UK. it was just a one-day thing but it had the emotional intensity and great sex of a love affair. an event to be treasured.

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I do exactly the same.

Indeed, I still remember the guys, who had a very great difficulty in understanding the meaning of a simple 'NO'. I still think that this is just about the worst thing you can possibly do, when it comes to cruising.

Besides, the dudes going around and begging for sex are just not my thing. I fully understand that it is, by no means, easy to be an older dude in an environment that exclusively worships the youth. Yet, a dude lacking the most basic sense of self-respect is totally unappealing in my eyes.

KD

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It isn't easy, as you say, being an older guy in a world that places more value on youth, but I've never met an older guy who would volunteer to be young again. Younger type body, yes, for some, but not younger mind, experience, problems.

When I was younger, I swore two things for myself when I grew older:

1. never dress like I'm a young guy when I'm no longer young;
2. remember how I hated those very pushy older guys who just seemed to have concluded they had nothing to loose so why not be very assertive. No really should be respected.

By the way, I turned 50 yesterday so I'm now officially an old man!

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Keith -

I agree with you on the ***PUSHY*** older guys...

But some of the younger guys need to think about the fact that someday we will all be older!

Some of the posts where the guys complain about the fact that older guys or fatter guys or hairy guys or guys go to the dirty bookstore looking for sex and isn't that awful that they go there - well hell we all get older and one day that may be any of us!

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