Have you ever been standing at a urinal in a restaurant, bar, whatever and caught a guy looking at you? Not the look of a cruiser but just some guy that was clearly curious about cock. You don't want to scare him off because with a little encouragement it might get interesting. Since he is looking and glancing up at you to see if you notice, might as well give him something to see.

I will play with it for as long as he watches. Just knowing I am being watched gets me going. So I will start to stroke it. It is funny to see just how long the other guy will stand and watch. I have never had anyone say stop but I haven't had anyone actually join me either. I decided to try this after I got caught watching back when I was still at the curious stage.

Has anybody else done this and got lucky or just enjoyed being the show?

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Guys do look. They have got eyes for a reason.

I am either interested in a dude, so I start the show or I am not.

There is little good in leading the dude on for no reason. On the other hand, if you are interested, and have the guts to show this within reason, go and have some fun, too

KD

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We all look - but unfortunately I have never had anyone make a move or start a show.

The weird times were back with the trough urinals at some sporting events - no way NOT to look at one of those! The college in my hometown had those and as a kid going to games you felt very exposed!

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Yup. This is where your gaydar & a healthy dose of common sense come in handy.

A few dudes are always on the lookout. They may or may not be actively cruising but will be happy to jump on the occasion... If you know how to identify those guys, your game is safe.

Some dudes are no game. You do not want to appear hopeless, and start hitting on those who are not in. Why would you want to do it anyway? So many guys are happy to oblige...

KD

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Not just knowing how to identify the guys interested...

But the hard part is one of you having the courage to make the first move.

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I agree. I have yet to see a guy wearing a sign, saying, "I am here to suck cock"

If you take, an easy, unhurried attitude, and figure out the active spots, you'll soon notice that some dudes just come in, piss, hardly look anywhere, and leave. They are either not interested, busy, scared or hiding... Unless you see them coming back every 5-10 min. disregard them. They are not looking for anything... Simply ignore them.

Then, there are those other guys, who are kinda really taking their time. They are making sure that they get at least a half-hardon before they piss. They are also likely to make sure that they shake it off pretty well afterwards. These dudes are usually looking surreptitiously around. Mimic their behavior. They are not afraid to look. Why should you be afraid to do the same?

Once the place gets quieter, and the guys see little or no danger of being disturbed, the ones who want to have some fun there and then will step back and make sure that the dudes they are interested in see their tools waiting.

This is when you call shots. You either kinda nod, or agree to it with a smile, and take the next step or you pass if who you see ain't to your liking.

Most dudes won't lose much time, and will move into the next free cabin. The others would exchange nods, and go somewhere more private, especially if they are gonna take their time...

Now, make sure that what you are doing is not illegal in your jurisdiction. Learn what to do, and how to behave if the play turns foul. Like with everything else in life, have an exit strategy. Consider taking calculated risks only.

Work on developing your intuition. If it feels wrong, it is probably wrong. Err on the side safety. You are probably NOT going to meet the love of your life under such circumstances. Much of it is just a play coupled with some sexual politics.

You are probably taking a quick BJ and nothing else. So, if it works, fine...

KD

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Very good advice KD...

Only had it happen a couple of times in a public place (not an adult bookstore) but it was great fun...

Nothing wrong with sex for sex sake...

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Yes, I agree good advice. I cruised two different public toilets with trough urinals. My first was a urinal in the ferndell as a senior in HS. I was a young sexy slut used my older guys. I felt so sexy and important and enjoyed the attention. If a guy didn't seem a little nervous, I usually passed on playing since they might be a cop.

The other public toilet was in Santa Monica, Ocean Park. I started cruising there in my 30's. The place had one long trough, with an open toilet across the room facing outward. Lot lots of guys that just wanted to stroke while checking you out. I'd feel excited with my hand his cock while he pisses.

In each cruisey place, the sexual encounters were quick and to the point since we didn't wanna get busted by someone walking in on us. A few times, I ended up in a toilet booth with a luver eating my hole, sucking me and me on my knees sucking them.

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It is funny how the need for privacy has grown in recent years.

When I was young there were no dividers at urinals - everyone HAD to shower after gym in an open shower -

In college bathrooms were all down the halls with open showers -

Now many schools have even taken out their gym showers and most college dorms have private bathrooms that just a few guys share.

There are not the opportunity's to just casually see others naked as there used to be....

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Yep. Individual showers with curtains. Curtains!!! I enjoy the show or being the show and "THEY" are just ruining everything. The old fairgrounds is the only place with the trough style pissers. Most of the parks have walled off the urinals. So unless you are about 6'5 you cant check out your neighbor.

Rally, what was the harm? Those that wanted to look could and those that didnt want to look were not forced. Those that wanted to leave things out or move to a more visible position could. "THEY" are just damned inconsiderate!

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When I was a kid it was no big deal to see your buddies naked.

When changing to swim we just changed in front of each other - hell there were a few friends where we went skinny dipping.

If we were playing outside you would just piss on a bush with your buddy there -

And there were lots of games of strip poker or when younger just plain old you show me yours I'll show you mine - and we thought nothing of it. And not all of the guys turned out to be gay because of it.

We were all guys - so why hide it?

The new generation has been brought up able to see EVERYTHING on line from as soon as they were old enough to hack the parental blocks - but yet they also have this paranoia of being seen for real...

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Privacy is a very complex issue.

I see myself as being a lucky guy who grew up in a liberal environment of guys being guys, and having nothing to hide. Nude beach used to be a norm. No one ever thought that there should be anything else but a group shower. (What was there to hide?), etc.

Sure, we did not have the magic of internet. We had a simple, possibly too simple a view of the world. You were either a guy or girl. You used either male lockers or female lockers. With the benefit of the hindsight I now see that we ignored the TG folks, and the people who were unable to decide, choose, determine, whatever.

I can also imagine that some of the guys around me were far less comfy about trotting around buck naked than the bigger jocks. Yet, the peer pressure was there, so they had no choice.

What is needed is a positive attitude towards sexuality. If a dude needs to hide in a stall, or wants to shower in his swimming trunks, or change with a towel around his waist, I am fine with that. He must have his reasons.

The good news is that the usual banter has changed. Gay dudes are dudes, too. Str8 dudes are more likely to show open interest, befriend gay guys, and other way around.

So, instead of the sneaking or not so sneaking peeks, things are a bit more on the open on a different level... This ain't too bad.

KD

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